Communication

Over the years many different characteristics have been labeled the "it" factor for a successful relationship. "Trust", "Honesty", "Faithfulness". Sometimes we were counseled by books, magazines, and TV to be more selfish..."can't take care of someone else until you take care of yourself". Then it was selflessness..."putting others needs first feels good and gives your karma a boost". Good communication has also been in that mix over the years as well. "You need good communication in order to have a successful relationship". But...the experts either did not explain what good communication was...or... it was analyzed to death until it completely lost meaning. Kinda like this essay...feels like it's drifting off to nowhere in particular... Oh...that's right...communication as the Holy Grail in a successful relationship. Another bland and undefined phrase..."successful relationship"...too broad a term to get my head around sometimes. Does it mean we are happy? Does it mean we have been together a long time? Does it mean we are happy we have been together a long time? What? I think, and strictly my small contribution to society is "good communication" means... I say something of value to you, you clearly understand what I was saying by conveying what you heard back to me...somehow. I ackowledge the fact that you were listening and let you make your point about the subject matter and I actively listen to what you have to say. Rinse and Repeat!